6 Life Lessons We’ve Learned After 6 Years of Marriage

Emily and Me

And far more than I’ll ever deserve.

It’s hard to believe that today marks six years of marriage for us. I feel like it was just yesterday that we were meeting and falling in love.

1. Go to bed angry

Because we have a plan for how to handle anger and disagreement, it has the power to actually deepen our connection to each other.

2. When things go wrong, don’t fix, have compassion

This one I’ve learned in my head and heart over and over again. My habits, on the other hand, are still lagging.

3. Be quick to apologize and to forgive

We always talk about this strength of our relationship, which is the next life lesson I’ll share. But first, let me tell you how great this has been for us.

4. Learn and play to the strengths of your relationship

When I was a missionary, I spent all day every day with another missionary. My “companion,” as we would say. Every few weeks I would get a different one. I learned a lot from the dozen or so companions I had during my 24 months of missionary service in England.

I couldn’t have married better.

We know and talk about this often. It could be dangerous to be different, but we’re careful to stay in the perspective of learning from each other.

5. When you think your marriage is safest is when it’s in the most danger

Complacency sucks. It can kill careers, health, and especially marriage.

When you protect and nurture your marriage is when it’s the safest.

6. Have fun together!

Not long after Emily and I met, we started spending a lot of time together. I was always impressed with how naturally we could carry on a conversation. We were interested in so many of the same fun things and ideas.

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