One or two hours wasted does not mean the day is wasted.
An unproductive day doesn’t mean your week is over.
A week of distraction isn’t a signal that your whole month will suck.
Taking a month off won’t make you inefficient for a whole year.
And even when you struggle for a whole year, it’s not a sign that you’re permanently destined to failure.
It’s easy to be hard on yourself when you have a hard time focusing. You catastrophize and think that you’ve failed this time period, so you might as well give up for the rest.
It’s happened many times. You commit to a goal or action, pump yourself up for it, and when the time comes to perform, you give in to the temptation to quit. It’s not your fault though, you just haven’t learned how to force yourself to stick to it. To do this, all you need a Ulysses contract.
A Ulysses contract is a way of forcing yourself to accomplish a goal by anticipating the potential temptations that will make it hard to complete and establishing rules for yourself so that you don’t give up when it gets hard.
I understand that…
In Disney’s Hercules, a unique promise is made to Hades when he tells The Three Fates of his plan to free the titans and take over Olympus.
“Should Hercules fight, you will fail.”
They then begin to cackle as they disappear, leaving him to carry out his plan.
Hades assumes that Hercules’ strength will be his downfall. If he can remove the young man’s strength then the threat against Hades’ attempt at ruling Olympus is gone, and his plan is a guaranteed success.
But Hades was wrong. The promise wasn’t that if Hercules fought with his strength, it was that…
“The only real failure is the failure to try, and the measure of success is how we cope with disappointment.”
― Deborah Moggach
You’ve lost your job. You’re down on your luck. Your car broke down or you missed your flight. You didn’t make the team.
“I’m not good enough,” you think. “Life’s not fair. I wish this were easier, I wish I had what the successful people have.”
We’ve all been there, and it’s no fun. But staying there isn’t going to get you where you want to be. …
January 19 is the day each year that most people give up on their goals. That’s why today, January 20, is the most important day for your goals, because today you have to choose whether or not you’ll keep going.
Any day of the year could be the most important for your goals though because you have the chance to give up and fall or stick with it and make those big aspirations inside of you become reality.
It’s not easy to stick to the daily run, healthy eating choices, or writing habit. The grind is hard. …
If you’ve ever failed at your New Year’s resolutions, you know how hard it is to reach your goals. And if you’re working on them right now, chances are you’re about to quit.
According to user data from Strava, the day most people give up on their goals every year is January 19.
Do you want to keep quitting too soon or do you want to rise above the failures of your past and become a new person? …
24 months ago I hated the idea of entrepreneurship. Trying to make more money made me cringe. Growing up I was taught that it was wrong to be rich, which made me think business people were the worst.
Today, I’m actively working on increasing my income because I know it will let me better care for my family and that it can make the world a better place.
As I’ve learned how not icky money and business are, I’ve grown to love coming up with new ideas and testing them because I now understand that it’s more about solving problems…
It’s 11:30 pm, and my 4-year-old is still awake, playing in his room. He comes into our room to ask for more food and tell us a story. I’m frustrated that I won’t meet my sleep goal for the night and may have a hard time getting up at 6:30 am tomorrow.
It’s days later and my alarm goes off at 6:30 am. Like every day for the previous three weeks, I restrain myself from hitting snooze, and I get out of bed. I’m just about to exercise and start work at 7 am like I’ve been doing so well…
This afternoon I quit working at 3 pm.
I finished everything I had to do. Knowing that 3–5 pm is my least effective work time, I’ve set the goal to stop working at 2 or 3 pm each day.
Using my time to play video games, get on a video call my sister in Argentina, and write some overdue message responses to friends, I felt a lot more fulfilled.
But it wasn’t always this way.
A year ago, I was working in the typical 9–5 job. Every afternoon I found myself struggling to keep going. …
Imagine a table set before you with an empty jar and various sizes of rocks.
Your objective is to fit as many of the rocks into the jar as possible.
If you start with the littlest pieces, the sand, and pebbles, then you won’t have the room for the bigger rocks.
But if you put all of the bigger and medium-sized rocks in first, you’ll find that you have plenty of room for the pebbles and sand.
Your life is no different.
Our priority should be on the “big rocks” in our lives. Our faith and Families. …