I married far above my pay grade. From her jaw-dropping, heart-stopping beauty the first moment I ever saw her, to the depth of her personality I noticed in the first conversation we had, I was smitten from the beginning.
It’s been an amazing journey with many ups and downs. We’ve learned a lot together along the way and our love grows stronger and stronger the more we progress together on this journey together.
But one of my favorite things about my wife will always be her Family. I feel like so many of us come to this adversarial relationship with our in-laws, and I wish it wasn’t so. There is so much good to be found in in-law relationships.
I hope that this will help you start to look at why you might be grateful for your in-laws.
They have given us so much
Let alone the fact that they gave me, the perfectionist, depressed man that I can be much of the time, one of their four precious daughters, they just continue to give.
Just four months after meeting my wife they invited me to join them on a trip to California. I remember offering to pay my ticket into Disneyland, and my then future father-in-law letting me know that I didn’t need to worry about it.
Little did I know that would be the first of many things that they generously gave.
The list is long, but includes just some of the following:
- Helping us buy a second car when we really needed it but couldn’t afford it.
- Giving us a place to live with cheap rent and plenty of space to help us save for a home of our own.
- Taking us on plenty of vacations, including multiple trips to California, Southern Utah, National Parks, and the list goes on.
To be honest, my quality of living has grown significantly since becoming part of this wonderful family. Not that it wasn’t before or that I had a bad childhood or anything, I will always be grateful to my Family of origin!
They are stellar examples for my children
Every single one of them maintains high standards of living. They are exceptional people, inside and out. They all work hard, seek to grow, and love each other deeply.
One of my sisters-in-law is on an 18-month service mission for our church. We got to Skype with her on Christmas, and she began to cry as it was about time to hang up the call when my boy walked up and said: “I wuv you Sarah!”
They are, each and every one of them, full of love for my kids. I would be highly satisfied if any of my kids grew up to be as great as any of them.
They help me see life in a different way
People can be very different. If you haven’t figured that out by now, go check out Twitter or listen to NPR. But just because we’re different doesn’t mean that we can’t get along and learn something from one another.
I see the world differently from my in-laws in a lot of ways. I’m not always deserving of them, but I am doing better at trying to recognize that I can learn much from what they know.
For one, I finally figured out a way to dress that actually makes me feel empowered instead of embarrassed. But that’s not hard to do when you join a Family with 4 girls.
My father-in-law is a great gardener, very frugal, and one of the most hard-working people I know. He loves his children and shows it by the significant amount of quality time he spends with them.
My mother-in-law is one of the most loving people I know, and ultra-sensitive to the needs of others. She is over-selfless, always setting aside her needs and wants for those of others, her Family first and foremost.
And each of my siblings-in-law has their own unique personalities that I have loved to grow and learn from as I have developed friendships with each of them.
I am grateful for my in-laws, each and every one of them.